It is important to understand the kind of woman we are talking about. Each of us will react to the lack of relationships depending on how strong our self-reliance, self-value, and the proverbial awareness is.

Let’s look at two possibilities. When a woman perceives loneliness as freedom and when, on the contrary, she feels unhappy without a relationship.

Let’s start with the latter option. If a woman has a weak inner support, she feels a lack of support, recognition, warmth from the outside. Because there is no motivating energy. She does not realize that she is self-sufficient both in relationships and outside of them, it is as if she lacks integrity. Hence emotions like sadness, longing, apathy.

Following the appearance of non-resource emotions, self-esteem begins to fall, because the status of importance is not supported from the outside. It is pleasant for every woman to receive gifts every day, to hear ardent confessions and words of admiration, but not everyone is ready to give it up for a long time. Women with a weak inner support are prone to emotional burnout due to the lack of support from the outside, and with a strong can quite survive this stage calmly, and, as sung in the famous song by Miley Cyrus:

I can buy myself flowers,

Write my name in the sand,

Talk to myself for hours

The most serious cases of weak self-reliance are when there is a pinching feeling of inferiority, insecurity, and a woman starts “nagging” herself, doubting her own worthiness both as a person and as a woman.

From the point of view of psychology, it is actually dependence on the opinion and presence in the life of another person, and it can greatly spoil life. Insecurity, loss, disappointment inhibit spiritual and personal growth, realization in creativity, career, achievements. Become unimportant desires and prospects.

In time to pick up and strengthen the inner support at this stage helps coaching. It brings a woman’s attention back to her value, goals, strength, beauty, spirituality, focusing on development regardless of the presence of a partner.

And the main thing is that when a woman finds her footing, she is attracted to those people with whom it is possible to build a truly harmonious relationship in a win-win strategy, when both win, when both develop, when they respect and support each other. A woman with unstable support, unfortunately, often falls into the trap of deficit relationships, where she is manipulated.

How can you check, feel that inner support, achieve that level of awareness and love for yourself? First of all, answer honestly to yourself the question how you perceive the absence of a partner. I don’t want to call it loneliness, because it is a word with a negative coloring. Besides, you can feel lonely even if you have a partner. What does it evoke in you, a sense of freedom or longing? What does your state without a relationship feel more like?

Self-love and awareness of your value is formed through action. There are different methods here, but you need to start with the main one – to take responsibility for your life and state on yourself. Talk it through, realize it, implement it in your life. Your point A is where you are now, the result of your previous actions. At this stage you need to turn off regrets about lost time and self-pity, review all your resources, answer yourself 3 questions:

• what are my opportunities (finances, talents, abilities, prospects);
• what are my true desires (do I want a long relationship, a family or just warmth, but without responsibility, or maybe now I just need to slow down, to implement long-postponed plans);
• what I would like to do for myself right now.

And the next step is to take ACTION in the direction you want to go. Just go for a walk with your favorite playlist in your headphones? OK. Go to the spa with your girlfriends? You can do that too! Go on a trip? Even better. Register on a dating site, go shopping, take up chess, change your profession – you can do anything! The main thing is to make a real, tangible and concrete action.

It would seem, what does this have to do with loneliness and reliance? It has everything to do with loneliness and support. When you do something based on your true desires, you pave the way to realization in all spheres of life, including relationships with others and, most importantly, with yourself. That’s when the pinching and pressure stops, inner freedom, pleasure in life and faith in yourself appear. The personality of a woman who is in harmony with herself is not affected by the long absence of relationships, she can change her status at any time at will.